He never returns the favor

Dear Dave,

Hey! The site looks great. But anyways…. my boyfriend and I have been going out for about a year now, and I have been preforming fellatio on him for about the past four or five months. I like pleasing him, and this is simply the reason that I go down on him. He, however has gone down on me once, but never again, and has not let on as to why. I know that I cannot force him to do anything he is uncomfortable with, and I don't want him to feel pressured. I do, however, want to be eaten out! Can you suggest a way to get over this problem and a way to approach him on the subject? Any help would be appreciated. Thanks

Poor thing… So thoughfully giving yet sadly unappreciated.

Have you ever thought of just plain asking him as to why he does not do it? Some men such as he normally do might consider this as an integral part of intimacy (and I have no freagin' clue why??) and do not do it for that fact alone. Perhaps he thinks he is not so great at it so he abstains from performing and since he doesn't get asked, he thinks it's ok. It's amazing how much relationships are afftected by a lack of communication. Please don't be afraid to ask either as you are simply asking him and not pressuring him into it.

Now, a good way to ask would be by letting him know how sexy you think it is to see him doing this to you. Let him know how crazy it makes you feel and that may get him more into the mood to do it. Or how about trying this… Find a set of sheets that you do not mind dirtying up a bit. Grab him and place a chair in front of your bed and make him sit down. Tell him not to move until you say so and proceed to do your magic… Lie down on the bed, remove your clothing (any way you'd like) and then grab a can of whipped cream (or perhaps a bottle of syrup) and proceed to smother yourself with it. Do this for a little while to get him all riled up and let him loose on ya tasting his nice sundae treat… When all is done, just let him know how much you love him doing it (that is if he's doing it right) and I'm sure he'll do this a hell of alot more…

Now, on the off chance that he isn't doing this to your liking, don't be let down. But make sure you are very vocal with how you like it when he's doing it! Men are very instruction-oriented and if you say a simple "To the left" or "Faster" or "Slower," he'll do it… Make sure you ackowledge what you like and if anything you'll help him help you. I hope this info helps ya out and good luck!

Tagged as: clue, five months, intimacy, lack of communication, whipped cream