Dear Dave,
My fiancee finally confessed that she has been using a vibrator for the past 6 years. While I have suspected her to be masturbating (heck, I do!) she has denied it all along saying "I tried it once and it didn't really do anything for me" and besides, I figured even if she was lying that she was only using her fingers. Now don't get me wrong, the fact that my girl uses a vibe IS a huge turn-on, my problem is that I have heard of women becoming addicted to vibrators, and even desensitized to the point that a man can do very little for them sexually. I would like to know what can be done to prevent these problems, and also any suggestions as to how "Slim Jim" can add to and not take away from our sex lives. You can definitely make this a public letter, as I am sure I am not the only guy facing this dilema.
Ok, from what I know, you do and really do not have anything to worry about so allow me to explain.
First off, the reason why she probably kept it a secret from you is that she thinks it's a bad thing to acknowledge. Perhaps her sis or mom told her it was a bad thing to do, or perhaps an ex of hers made her feel bad for doing it or if she's religious, then fawgeddaboutit… This is the *least* of her worries… 
So now since she has revealed this information to you, it's your job to make her completely feel at ease that she does this. Praise her, let her know how sexy it makes her, make sure you do not make her feel inadequate or insecure in any way or she won't share much of anything else with ya EVER. Almost everyone does it though it's always been my belief that those who say they don't masturbate are either lying or are way too boring to deal with in the first place.
Now to answer your questions… I really doubt that women can become addicted to using a vibrator simply because how much fun can repeatedly using a lifeless object be (ok, ok, some men out there make vibrators look good but don't condemn us all)? Now don't get me wrong, if there's not anyone around to fulfill her desires, a vibrator is great for relieving everyday stresses. Look at us?! We whack off how many times a week (or a day with others… hehe), yet it can never really compare to how amazing it feels with another person. It's a good tool and a decent substitute, but is not as good as the real thing when the real thing is used properly. Like comparing apples and oranges.
As for loss of sensitivity, you are correct there my friend. Way repeated use does cause a desensitization of the clitoris and makes it hard to climax without it's help. But all is not lost Daniel-san… Use of a vibrator or dildo can be a tremendous positive asset to a couple's sex lives. If you enjoy going down on your fiancee, using a vibrator while you're doing your magic will send her to some real nice places… If you (or she) use her vibrator to stimulate her clitoris while you are having sex, it feels AMAZING since the vibrations will also affect you as well. Just don't do this every single time you guys have sex… Rather, make it a nice treat for a "once in a while" thing… Hope this helps and if ya have any more questions, please shoot 'em right back at me.
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