Dear Dave,
My husband and I have been married for a little over 6 months. One of the biggest issues in our marriage is sex. I understand that he doesn't want it as much as I do, however when he does want it, he is only out to satisfy himself. He refuses to touch my body, explore it, perform oral sex or anything. He simply achieves his orgasm and leaves me laying there to cry about how much I miss having a man's touch. This is really bothering, and has caused me to rethink the marriage and live in fear of having an extra marital affair. I have tried everything I can think of to spark his sex drive, however he still doesn't respond. I like sex a lot and need a man to remain active in our sex life, and one that wants to please me as much as I want to please him. Is this marriage over? Can you please tell me why he doesn't desire me and what I should do about it?
A little over 6 months and he's acting like this??
Ok hun, something is definitely wrong with him or there maybe another problem in the marriage that has been overlooked. Typically, a decrease in sex drive is caused by one of several things among men… Stress plays a major role as well as drugs, drinking, obesity, etc… Things that are bad for you normally really wreak havoc on a man's (and also women's) sex drive. Has he started a new job? Have you bought a new house? Thinking of having kids? Is he in line with the mafia? All of these things will make him go drier than the Mojave desert on a really hot day…. Has he gone to see a doctor just to see if it maybe something wrong with the plumbing? If this is medical in nature, then you can both resolve this matter very easily.
One question that I must ask is if he was this way before you got married, or did it just happen? If he was like this before you got married, then I have to ask why you married him in the first place. If he rocked your world every single night and then all of this just happened, then it may be one of the reasons I told ya about above or it could be other things that he is not telling you about.
The only thing I can offer as advice for you is to have the both of you see a counselor of sorts to help you resolve this problem. If he is reluctant to go, then you can try going yourself to at least get some answers and perhaps some new techniques to help drive up his sex drive. If after that you both find that this is not helping either of you any, perhaps it's time to re-evaluate your marriage and what you both expect out of it. Good luck!
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